I write this public service announcement for myself as much as anyone else. The statistics of caregivers’ health decline is well-known and scary. Caregivers are at greater risk for hypertension and inflammation. Knowing this in your head and putting this into action is a different matter.

I’ve canceled doctors’ appointments when things have gotten busy. I remember reminding my mom she has to take care of herself when she was caring for my dad because several of her neighbors had gotten sick and passed before their husband.

When we are in the busy season of caregiving, we need to step back and remind ourselves that we need to do something for ourselves on a regular basis. We are no good to anyone else if our health is slipping.

Our minds have to accept that we are human and need rest, fresh air, sleep, and good food.  We need to see that the journey is more of a marathon and less of a sprint. We need to learn how to ask for help. For some of us, this doesn’t come naturally. We need to stop feeling guilty because we believe we aren’t doing enough. We need to unapologetically take care of ourselves. Self-care is the cornerstone.

Start with easy add-ons to your day such as listening to your favorite music, taking a walk, or taking a few moments to check-in with your feelings. How can you be extra good to yourself today?

Talk openly with your therapist, clergy, or your caregiver support group and ask for accountability for taking better care of yourself. They will have your best interest at heart and encourage you to do nice things for yourself.