I recently heard the phrase “taking a break from grief” and really liked the way that it sounded. As caregivers, there is so much loss along with our hearts hurting for the losses our loved ones are experiencing. It’s easy to spend most of our time stuck in grief, but we need regular breaks. Here are some suggestions.
Get Spiritual
For me, attending a weekly church service helps me gain strength to keep going. Being around other people who ask how you are doing is also very comforting. I feel that having a higher and broader perspective helps us see situations as less personal and gives us a way of viewing a challenging situation. When we can focus on the higher power of our choice, life becomes much more bearable.
Exercise and Mindful Movement
When I’m taking a dance break to music I love, I’m momentarily able to forget what is weighing on my mind and heart. It feels wonderful to move my body to music. Enjoy the silence when you’re taking a walk and focus on the good things in your life.
Even doing a few stretches or jumping jacks will make a difference if you have been sitting all day. Make this part of your daily routine so it becomes a habit.
Get Creative
Your life has changed in profound ways that may be hard for others to understand, but you have to believe that you can modify and try new ways of being. I was feeling rather sorry for myself, but I realize that I can still invite people over who are caring and understanding. The right people will want to support you. I’ve made sure that I still have a spa night by including my mom. She uses a foot mask and I use a sheet mask. I still make sure that I have at least 30 minutes to myself to sit and do nothing or whatever I wish.
Think of ways your loved one can join you so you both benefit. You could try exercising together, cooking together, and each working on a hobby you enjoy in the same room. This ensures that you don’t feel resentful because you aren’t sacrificing things that are important to you.
Remember Who You Are
Before the situation you found yourself in, try to remember who you were. Maybe you were an avid reader. You can still meet with people virtually and join a book club. You can still meet with people over the phone to discuss books. It’s easy to think that you don’t have the time to do something and give up too much, but it’s worth it to fight and stay connected to yourself and others.
Small pleasures energize you and keep you motivated and better able to serve others. Think about what you can add to your toolkit to make the journey more easeful. Being mindful about how you approach your tasks is essential to your health and well-being during challenging times.
